When It’s Wrong to be Right: Abortion

My first introduction to the abortion debate was in a Political Science seminar at Brock University.  At the time I had not taken a position on the issue.  I was shocked by the emotion involved and was surprised at the anger the pro-choice side had toward pro-life, often accusing them of being mysogynist.

I have since taken a pro-life stance.  I am still surprised at the reactions by pro-choice supporters.  I was involved in one peaceful abortion protest where the signs were closely regulated as to their message.  The anger by abortion supporters was unfortunate.  To some people, one of the biggest problems with conservative Christians is that many of them are pro-life.  Pro-life is seen as anti-women and therefore something that should not be tolerated.

I find the abortion debate extremely frustrating.  One side says that they want to protect the life of an unborn baby and another that they want to protect the rights of a woman.  When you listen to the debates, it is as if they are having two different conversations.  One side sees the other as anti-woman and the other as anti-baby, when neither is the case.

There is a part of me that would like to be pro-choice, in fact I am with any other decision with a woman’s body.  What stops me is that this one choice will affect and in fact end the life of another human being.  Never has it entered into my mind that abortion should be opposed in order to take rights away from women.  Since pro-choice supporters are good people, they are forced to deny that a fetus is a human being.  This is problematic.  For example, in some areas, criminals can be charged with double homicide if they murder a pregnant woman.  Also, if a person wants to have a child, there is very real grief if the pregnancy ends in a miscarriage.  It is not the same grief of a missed opportunity such as if conception does not take place in the desired month.  There is a real feeling of loss.

My plea to pro-choice people who are angry with conservative Christians is to take a moment and imagine how they would react if they encountered a situation where children were being murdered.  How would you feel?  What would you do?  You might not think that abortion is the killing of a human baby, but considering the belief that life begins at conception, most actions (violent action excepted) by pro-life people are actually quite reasonable.

As a conservative Christian, I will continue to oppose abortion.  But I think the best way to do it is not to condemn people who have chosen abortion but to give people options by being willing to help with the physical needs of pregnant women and being willing to adopt when possible.  However, I do not believe these positions deserve the hatred of opponents of the pro-life movement.

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6 thoughts on “When It’s Wrong to be Right: Abortion”

  1. As a conservative Christian, I am only trying to reinforce your reasoning about the abortion issue…it can be answered by simply answering this question: Who created the life? As Christians we know that God creates all things, in this case with our cooperation. So, if God created the life in the mother’s womb, who’s right is it to give the child life or not? We are supposed to be totally obedient to God, aren’t we? As an example, His Son said “Not my will, but thine”.

    Bless you for a well thought-out stance.

  2. Dear Persons Sincerely Intered in What The Bible Really Teaches,
    On the issue of life it is so very clear but so very much ignored for many reasons. The reasons why it is ignored are not what I am calling attention to but about how the true God considers life and what the Bible says about that issue.

    Psalms 139:16 ~ “Your eyes saw even the embryo of me,
    And in your book all its parts were down in writing,
    As regards the days when they were formed
    And there was not yet one among them.”
    (That is quoted from The New World Translation Of The Holy Scriptures)

    Notice the use of “embryo” by the psalmist David. The definition of embryo from a good online dictionary ( http://machaut.uchicago.edu/?action=search&word=&resource=Webster%27s&quicksearch=on ) is:

    Embryo (Page: 484)
    Em”bry*o (?), n.; pl. Embryos (#). [F. embryon, Gr. , perh. fr. in (akin to L. E. in) + to be full of, swell with; perh. akin to E. brew.] (Biol.) The first rudiments of an organism, whether animal or plant; as: (a) The young of an animal in the womb, or more specifically, before its parts are developed and it becomes a fetus (see Fetus). (b) The germ of the plant, which is inclosed in the seed and which is developed by germination. In embryo, in an incipient or undeveloped state; in conception, but not yet executed. The company little suspected what a noble work I had then in embryo.” Swift.

    Now to consider other translatios of that verse:

    AMP © Your eyes saw my unformed substance, and in Your book all the days [of my life] were written before ever they took shape, when as yet there was none of them.
    ASV © Thine eyes did see mine unformed substance; And in thy book they were all written, Even the days that were ordained for me , When as yet there was none of them.
    KJV © Thine eyes did see my substance, yet being unperfect; and in thy book all my members were written, which in continuance were fashioned, when as yet there was none of them.
    NASB © Your eyes have seen my unformed substance; And in Your book were all written The days that were ordained for me, When as yet there was not one of them.
    NIV © your eyes saw my unformed body. All the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be.
    NLT © You saw me before I was born. Every day of my life was recorded in your book. Every moment was laid out before a single day had passed.

    Please go to the link below


    and simultaneaously consider the entire chapter of Psalms 139 and form your opinion after your honest consideration from the Bible translations cited above. Not my opinion is what is to be considered but “what the Bible really teaches” on the subject.

    Psalms 139:14 from the New World Translation Of The Holy Scriptures is here:

    “14 I shall laud you because in a fear-inspiring way I am wonderfully made.
    Your works are wonderful,
    As my soul is very well aware.”

    Readers can also compare this verse from the entire page at the link citing the entire chapter of Psalms 139.

    Warmest Christian Love in Proclaiming the Good News of God’s Kingdom,

  3. Dear Stephen,

    I have had 2 abortions and I am pro-choice. I just wanted to thank you for how you stated your stance on this issue (a rational, not aggressive way to talk about this topic). I think often, pro-life movements become so aggressive that they miss the message they are trying to portray (I realize pro-choice movements likely do the same, but I acknowledge that my opinion is a little biased). I agree that the messages are often misunderstood as anti-woman or anti-baby. I think everyone is entitled to their opinion and I certainly would never try to “convince” anyone that abortion is the right choice – I think it is right for some people and not for others – it’s not for me to decide who it’s right for and it’s definitely not my place to judge people for what they believe or for the choices that they make. I think that, pro-life movements, by judging women who have had abortions, and by showing disturbing pictures, are not actually achieving anything or getting their message across. It feels more like an attack on us, and only adds to women’s distress, making pro-choicers become more defensive.

    I wouldn’t doubt for a second that there have been women who have become depressed, developed a mental illness, hurt themselves, and even committed suicide because of how aggressive and disturbing pro-life moevements are, as well as the stigma, judgment, and discrimination that they lead to. It’s a bit hypocritical, I think, to claim to stand for people’s rights and advocate for life, when all they’re doing is ruining a woman’s life and well-being. When a woman’s life is ruined because of the stigma and silence surrounding abortion, her life is in their hands, her blood is on their hands…

    An abortion is very different from murdering children. An abortion doesn’t come from evil or hatred. No one wants to go through this. No woman has ever woken up one morning and thought “I want to have an abortion”. It’s a series of events and decisions – and a woman under so much stress (and likely no one to talk to without passing judgment) can only do what she thinks is best for her (and her baby). Who is anyone else to judge her decision?

    Many women who have had abortions do miss their baby, and they think it was a baby they gave up (not a lifeless fetus as some pro-lifers believe we think). It is difficult to explain what this choice is like to someone who has never experienced anything like this. It’s like having to choose whether you want your arm or your leg to be cut off – it’s a painful decision, and there’s no right answer. And you know that either way, it’s gonna hurt, but you just do your best, what else can one do?

    Unless one has been in the position to ever have to make a decision like this, it’s no one’s place to judge. Deciding to have an abortion is a journey that continues on for many years later… I am not religious, but if one believes that it was God’s plan for that woman to become pregnant, maybe it was God’s plan for her to go through this journey, to find herself, her strength, her meaning in life. And if not, then only God can judge us and it’s no one else’s place.

  4. God offers forgiveness for all who repent and turn away, including those offering willingly or taking willingly the life of another human being. We should remember that true love is sacrificial. Jesus willingly laid His life down for all. His life was not taken by another. His was the ultimate sacrifice: self-denial. His was a sacrifice of love. To take the life of another human being (in this case an innocent baby human) is neither self-sacrificing nor love. To commit this act is self-centeredness and un-loving. Is it a just act to kill a baby human because one is inconvienced or coerced by another’s lack of self-sacrifice and love? Yes, love, in its purest form. Not the definition and interpretation that humans have ascribed to it. Is it a just act to inflict great pain and suffering upon an innocent baby human, in or out of the womb, because another human being has told one that it is her “right” as a woman to choose death for their baby? Yes, ‘their’ baby. All babies have a sperm donor (who has somehow become a low-profile subject in the “abortion rights” argument). What about the choice of the baby human? Is that human being not worthy of a choice in the matter? We can no longer pamper and coddle pride at the expense of a LIFE. It is not intolerance or hate that drives women and men to hold up signs and banners with photos of dismembered infant humans and words pleading to stop the violence against these little humans too. Rather, it is great sorrow and mercy and compassion for each tiny life being ripped apart piece by sickening piece from a woman’s haven that should have offered protection.

    This is Love: the Son..beloved Son of God was beaten, skin and muscle tissue ripped apart with whips of leather tethers embedded with bits of stone and sharp metal; spit upon, mocked, stripped naked and crowned with a crown of thorns pushed sharply into the tender flesh of His Sovereign head. This is Love: His Father in heaven held back His merciful arm of rescue because He Loved us that much. His Love extends to all..including those tiny bodies thrown into garbage bags and bins after suffering such horrible criminal acts of violence against them. This is Love: God loves us all. This is Love: God has told us; instructed us:
    “I call heaven and earth to witness against you today, that I have set before you life and death, blessing and curse. Therefore choose life, that you and your offspring may live…”
    Deuteronomy 30:19

    Yes, this is Love.

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