The Moment That Haunts Me

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  1. Ben says:

    This is a perfect example of why I don’t believe in God. It’s not beyond God’s power to heal autism or brain injuries. But even Christians, I think, know that God just doesn’t do that. They come up with excuses for why that he might decline to do such obviously miraculous kinds of healings. But deep down, I think, they know it just doesn’t happen.

    They won’t admit to themselves the obvious reason it doesn’t happen. It’s not because God has some hidden purpose for autistic children. It’s because God *isn’t there*.

    • Thanks for your comment. However, as a dad of two kids with autism, I have a different perspective. We have seen some amazing things happening with our kids, including very specific answers to prayer. The problem with the experience I shared is that there was an assumption that God has written a blank cheque when it comes to healing, something that is not biblical.

  2. Bryan Stoudt says:

    Hey Steve, really appreciate your vulnerability in sharing this story. That takes courage.

    I also have a child with autism. In the year or two after his diagnosis a few people essentially implied that, if we searched hard enough, we would find something to cure him… or, at least greatly diminish the severity of his autism. I fell into the same line of thinking, believing that if we worked hard enough with his in-home therapy program, Matthew would be (basically) fine.

    So, although the details are quite different than the story you share, they’re similar in that they try to make our role decisive for healing. If only it were that easy, right?

    I’m sympathetic with Ben’s comment because it’s so hard to understand why God has allowed so much suffering, especially when it’s personal. It can seem like he’s absent. But, like you, we’ve seen too many answers to prayer to ignore his presence.

    Thanks again for your post, and work to help churches welcome those with disabilities.

    • Thanks Bryan. We had similar things said to us with our own children. We had a few close friends get frustrated with us because they believed all we had to do was ask and they would be healed. It was that simple. Others were convinced that a certain diet or therapy would be the key. The truth is that there are no easy answers. But I will say that our children’s autism has strengthened my faith and not weakened it. Blessings on you and your family.

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