There is much respect given to pastors who work long hours and who are always available to their congregation. But that doesn’t mean they are good pastors. What about their family?
At one time there was talk of needing to balance church and family. Balance ideas have begun to fall away as a 50/50 split is not necessarily fair to either the church or the family.
Leaders are speaking more now of a healthy rhythm in how we are with church and family. What that rhythm looks like might be different week to week, month to month or year to year. However, pastors will known when the rhythm has been broken. The break will disrupt both the family and the ministry.
I remember a time when I felt guilty spending time with my family. That was time that could be used for ministry. Then I realized that I had been preaching the importance of caring for family. Spending quality time with my family didn’t make me less of a pastor, it made me better, as I was modelling what I was preaching.
I can’t give precise steps of how this looks like. It depends on your stage of life and your ministry context. But I can say it is important to make your family a priority.
A book that I highly recommend on this topic is When Work and Family Collide: Keeping Your Job from Cheating Your Family by Andy Stanley.